So Unloved In Custody I'd Die Everyday (SUICIDE)

Vengeful Father Syndrome November 29, 2019 By S. Anna Edwords When a mother leaves a father who is abusive, he continues to try and abuse and control her. He will try and get her fired from her job, mentally abuse the children known as Parental Alienation Syndrome, and call or have friends call Child Protection Services on her to have the children removed and given to him. They will show up at the children’s school and pick up them up without notifying the mother. Once the father gains custody, if the mother works with children, he will call the mother’s employer. He will state the mother does not have custody of her children so how can she work with kids.  These types of behaviors are called Revengeful Father Syndrome. Fathers are found to be embittered and resentful at their loss of position and status, and the control and domination they exercised over their victims. Vengeful Fathers frequently use the law and the legal system as a means of enforcing their ...

Michigan Suicide DK went through her divorce in 1999 that quickly turned into a custody battle and a high conflict case. As her children were being mentally abused, now known as Parental Alienation Syndrome (PAS) she did what she could to help her children with the mental abuse they were experiencing, being careful that PAS would not be used against her. DK says her children were angry and would state they wanted to kill themselves. It was recommended by her counselor to call a mental hospital and have the children receive treatment.  The father would show up and demand to have his children. When they were not returned, a report was made to Child Protection Services (CPS) and nothing was done.  Eventually, Deanna’s former spouse gained custody of the children, and her children were concealed from her. Deanna has helped parents in the family court and has several ways to do that.  Over the years DK has known parents whose children have committed suicide...

Try not to laugh at some of these faces. Don't laugh now. Even animals laugh. Looks like your dad doesn't it? Your little brother? Sister what big teeth you have! Your sister trying to look pretty. Donkey you get it! People with big teeth laugh the loudest! If you don't laugh at that you are a blowfish. Hah We can't forget your mom.  Or your former boyfriend.  And last the school principal. So how did that make you feel? Seeing others laugh or even animals can cheer you up.

Bad Judges The road to suicide for children in family court starts with an attorney who strongly pressured the mother not to present any evidence about the father’s domestic violence. Reasons for this approach: Ignorance of the enormous harm caused by exposure to domestic violence. Domestic violence complicates a case and creates a high conflict case the judge does not want to deal with.   Judges retaliate against mothers for continuing to believe a father is dangerous, and they will refuse forensic evidence of children being sexually abused by the father. The emphasis of family court and government funding is on the need to keep fathers in the child’s life. Gender bias of the judge that will harm the lawyer’s relationship with the judge. An attorney should not be concern about other cases or their career. It is a conflict of interest for this to happen and it violates the fundamental ethical considerations of a client. When an attorney undermines one...

Children And Family Court Family court and the words used are not only confusing to children, but to parents also. “As a Legal Domestic Abuse Coach, the number one questions parents ask is, can you explain the process of family court?” Says Deanna Kloostra.   If parents do not understand the process and attorneys are not explaining it to their clients, how can a parent explain it to a child?  Going to court is scary and nerve-racking to parents and for a child to have to go to court is triple the anxiety.  At the beginning of a separation of a relationship, children have so many questions that they are not asking their parent’s but keeping them inside to themselves. Sometimes they ask each parent and they get a different answer. How confusing is that? Some typical questions children are asking is: Will I live with mom or dad? When will I get to see my other parent? Did I do something to make my parent leave? Maybe I get in trouble to much? My pare...

Family Court Stress Do you need to de-stress right now or do you have time to create items to make you feel better when stressed? We have some great suggestions for you below.   Make a sign to remind yourself to stay positive. You can paint words or put them on a poster board to hang in your room. Sticky notes are a favorite as well. Design a postcard you can send yourself in the mail. Write and letter not intended to send.         Love notes, angry rant, or a forgiveness letter to someone you do not want to talk to. Write out your feelings and let them go. Then rip up, throw darts at, or scribble on. You can rip it up and crate something new out of it. Piñata with candy inside you can bat around. Make a box to keep pictures in. This will help get the feelings out and to let go of a situation. The feelings will lose some of their power. This is a great visual and reminder to yourself you can use something bad that happened to create something new....