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| Vengeful Father Syndrome |
November 29, 2019
By S. Anna Edwords
When a mother leaves a father who is abusive, he
continues to try and abuse and control her. He will try and get her fired from
her job, mentally abuse the children known as Parental Alienation Syndrome, and
call or have friends call Child Protection Services on her to have the children
removed and given to him. They will show up at the children’s school and pick
up them up without notifying the mother. Once the father gains custody, if the
mother works with children, he will call the mother’s employer. He will state
the mother does not have custody of her children so how can she work with kids.
These types of behaviors are called Revengeful Father Syndrome.
Fathers are found to be embittered and resentful at
their loss of position and status, and the control and domination they exercised
over their victims. Vengeful Fathers frequently use the law and the legal
system as a means of enforcing their rights and demands and for continuing to
persecute their victims, both mothers, and children.
Family courts may not consider the history of woman abuse relevant in awarding custody.
Part of this is because lawyers advise their clients
to not bring up it up knowing it will make the case turn into a “high conflict”
case. Family courts frequently minimize the harmful impact of children
witnessing violence between their parents. Judges are reluctant to believe
mothers and may believe the mother is using domestic violence to use against
the father. If the month has never called the police or have a history of
violence documented by the police force, they will see her as not telling the
truth. Mothers may be reluctant to call the police knowing that Child Protection
Services will become involved and the possibility of losing her children to the
unjust system.
Judges take training to read behavior and to be able
to tell if one of the parties is lying. Those same behaviors are displayed by
women of domestic violence, so the judge automatically believes the mother is
not telling the truth.
If the court, court employees, or therapist ignores
the history of violence, as the context for the mother’s behavior in a custody
evaluation, she may appear hostile, uncooperative, or mentally unstable.
A psychological evaluation can be skewed.
Psychological evaluators may give the mother a MMPI II
psychological test. This test was not created for women of domestic violence
and these mothers were wrongfully diagnosed. Also, Psychiatric services paid
for by the court or ordered to a certain facility the courts contract with, can
be a conflict of interest. The psychologist may receive information from court
employees who have access to the psychologist and taint the evaluation and accuse
her of alienating the children from the father.
DK says that after seeing the court-appointed psychologist, she noted in a motion that she wrote to the judge about
the evaluation. She stated that the psychologist stated to her the judge was
upset with him for an evaluation that did not turn out the way the judge
wanted. In the psychologist report he also stated that he discussed the case
with the Guardian Ad Litem (GAL).
DK says, “I am pretty sure the GAL informed him of
my motion. It appears he wrote the evaluation and then went back in and changed
information. He had no data to back up what he was saying and confusing and
conflicting information. It is illegal for the psychologist to talk with anyone
about the person.”
DK eventually connected her GAL and spouse in
selling custody of her children to her former spouse.
The 2012 Doctor Saunders report from Michigan University.
Doctor Saunders researched the family court in
Michigan suggested that abusive fathers are winning custody of their children.
This is because of domestic violence and because abusive fathers are more
likely than a nonviolent father to seek sole physical custody of his children.
Often fathers win physical custody because fathers generally have greater
financial resources. Fathers can continue the court battles with more legal
assistance over a longer period of time. ArtSoolk.com is trying to change the
odds and helping parents represent themselves quick and easy.
When the Revengeful Father gains custody?
You know, it is funny how we have studied how abusers
will harm the family pet or kill them to get back at the mother for leaving.
Laws have been created so the victims of domestic violence can take the pet to
safety as well as the kids, but when it comes to children, we think they will
not harm them!
Typically, the mother in these cases have very little
contact with the children or have been concealed from them altogether. The
protector of the child, usually the mother, helps to give the children
temporary breaks from the abuse, but when that protective mother is concealed,
they no longer receive that break. These children eventually believe their
mother does not love them or gave up fighting for them. Some children will do
whatever the father wants them to do so the father will not be so vengeful on
them. At this stage, the children are trying to survive. This is known as the
Stockholm Syndrome.
When the child feels so unloved and can’t take it anymore.
Some children feel alone and unloved and are
constantly mentally abuse and can’t take the abuse anymore. These children will
take their own life to stop the pain. Suicide rates for children are up all
over the United States.
Teachers are aware of revengeful fathers gaining custody and the child committing suicide.
When you have a child in your class and the parents get
divorced it usually spills into the school system. Teachers have even dealt
with angry fathers. Then you learn the revengeful father has custody. A few
years later you hear the child committed suicide. When this happens enough
times in your school, the teacher can put two and two together.